We live in a society that promotes the patriarchal values of controlling our emotions. Often times, showing the way we feel, particularly for women and in the work place, can even be seen as weakness. We’re expected to hold it together at all times and if something makes us feel bad, it’s better to hide these feelings and deal with them in private, rather than acknowledge that hurt feelings are there. Furthermore, trusting in the way we feel is often put on the back burner to facts and things that can be measured and the effects of not honoring the way we feel is leading to much mental and physical health issues for people. Here are some reasons why it’s good to express our feelings in healthy ways.
1. Vulnerability is fundamental to living. We live in a society that often associates vulnerability with weakness, but vulnerability is actually one of the greatest measures of courage. In life everyone is looking for guarantees, things that can be measured and predicted. But vulnerability is an ability to move forward in something where the outcome cannot be certain. In being vulnerable, we take risks despite the possibilities of failure. Failure is a part of life and what matters is not so much whether we win or lose, but that we try and do so daringly and with courage.
2. Feelings is what makes life beautiful. People who see feelings as fundamental to living often associate the myriad feelings we experience as part of a beautiful life experience. All of life consists of joy, sorrow, happiness, grief and every other feeling in between. There is just as much beauty found in sadness as in joy and sensitive people see the value of the whole range of human feelings.